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Bridesbouncers, Groomsnipers and more

While discussing family problems with a close friend last night, she said the words that I have been thinking since reading “Offbeat Bride”.

“Fuck bridesmaids, Momma, you need bouncers. If I can wear sequins AND a holster i think the space time continuum will give a few shivers. You could always just take me on the next outing, I’m built for ego smashing. Don’t let those idiots piss you off. Let them make you laugh.” (Yes Rachel, I quoted you. That’s how awesome you are)

After two hours of being cold shoulder ignored by my half husbands family, I totally agree. I left the place in tears because no one said a damn word to me.

Moving on, we looked at some rings and found a design that blew my mind away. Two white sapphires (I hate diamonds. Just plain and simple) on either side of a larger blue sapphire. The meaning behind it was evident to me; the past and future are meaningless and useless, but the present is here, and means everything. Kinda clashes with the sapphires meaning of “Your dreams will come true” but who cares.

Then we found a gorgeous dress at a local store going out of business. It was a tight bodice, rouched so the fabric kinda folded in the center with a ribbon under the breasts and the skirt was plain. The entire dress in a slightly offwhite.

I fell in love.

And its kinda weird cause here I am, this crazy, regular offbeat “half wife” and yet, I am throwing away my cocktail, petticoated dream dress in my head and seeing myself in this window dress which I totally haven’t made by hand.

Too weird.

Then we formulated names for other positions (seen in title of this post) and determined that my bridebouncers will play the part of the Sith, and Matts groomsnipers will play the part of Jedi.

Anyone else sense an epic battle on the dancefloor?

I mean, we can play Sandstorm to this shit. Choreograph it.

Oh dang, now I’m all excited.

But the funfacts go as this:

Matt and I have been looking in ring stores. He says “All the times I have said NO to you, I was due for a YES.”
We also saw said epic dress in the window. I had glanced at it when he was with me, and stared when he wasn’t but he admitted he liked it WITHOUT PRODDING
We bought his brothers birthday gift. (Ps, AJ? Mine is the funny one. You’ll understand soon.)
I have lost my idea notebook as of this morning. If anyone sees a Tinkerbell notebook full of blue pen, and it says my name on it, GIVE IT BACK!

And a shameless plug for a book I love:

“Offbeat Bride; Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides” – Ariel Meadow Stallings

The Wedding Hoopblah is OVER! (Normal Life May Now Resume)

Yay for no more wedding stuff! I was almost heart wrenching to watch all of this unfold. Just too many rings flying around all willy-nilly. I know it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter that I am upset. It doesn’t matter if anyone cares. But the truth is I want a promise. A guaranteed future for myself. And the other night, I snapped.

Prety nasty. Especially towards girls who are my friends. But thats the entire problem. They are my friends.

One is a free spirit. She cut her hair on a whim and looks for a great time, wherever she is. She doesn’t have set plans and career is always first for her. Always, always, always. Her boyfriend wants commitment and she agreed half heartedly, knowing he’s not the one for her. If I remember right, there is a 2013 wedding in the mix for these two.

Another one has been by his side for 3 years, almost as long as he has been in the Army. And they fight like cats and dogs. No one is ever right, they are not considerate of the others feelings and the second he heard about deployment, he proposed. They are getting married on Halloween, I believe.

She hadn’t even been with him for 6 months when on Christmas day, he asked her to marry him before his deployment. Now she’ll be a junior while he goes to basic and on December 3rd, 2012, they’ll tie their own knot.

There is the uber feminist that shaved her head because she wanted to, but not her legs. She has been with her guy for about two years, give or take a while and wears tie dye sweat pants to school. No denying that she has an amazing personality, but also a set 2012 wedding.

These girls, plus many others with less than favorable relationships, are all engaged. They have what I crave with my heart because a marriage is my dream. I want to be a housewife with all of my heart and yet these girls are somehow getting it… HOW!?!

I proposed to Matt too… Ring and all. He just looked at me and said “Someday.” I ask near constantly, taking it in my hands and I don’t even… UGH!

I’ve told him, if he doesn’t want marriage to just tell me. I just want a commitment. I even brought up handfasting. He said it sounded too much like a wedding… At least I tried to make a compromise. Right?